Hey you guys, this is mat boggs, and today we're going to talk about four things men do when they want a relationship with you.
The first thing they do, and I know that this is obvious but it's important, is they pursue you. You're going to feel their energy. You're going to feel their attention on you.
You're going to feel their focus on you because they are pursuing you. When you start feeling like you're the one who has to carry the relationship, you're the one who has to reignite the communication through the texting, or you're the one who is saying, " hey, where is this guys, " that's not the guy who wants a relationship with you.
The guy who wants a relationship with you, you're not going to have to wonder where he is. He's going to be right there pursuing you.
The second thing we do as men when we want a relationship is called progression. This means we want to see you more often. We progress the frequency that we're seeing you.
We progress the duration in which we see you. We don't want to see just for a couple of hours on a friday night.
We want to spend all day saturday with you. We want to hang out with you. We want to go hiking with you. We want to spend more time with you.
The second way that we progress the relationship is we actually progress the intimacy. What does this mean? This means that we progress what we're willing to share of ourselves with you.
We want to share the music we like. We want to share the things that we are most proud of. We want to share the work that we're doing with you.
We want to share our world with you so that you can really get to know us, so we progress how open we are in that relationship as well. The third key to look out for when a guy wants a relationship with you is planning.
He's going to advanced planning. He's going to try to book you for a date on your prime time, the most valuable moment of your week, which is friday, saturday, and sunday.
The reason we do this is we do not want to even let the chance in that you're going to go out with some other guy on friday, saturday, or sunday night. Typically, by the time we end the date, we're setting up the next date with you.
What you want to watch out for is the guy who says at the end of the date, " yeah, i'd love to go out again some time. Maybe this next weekend i'll text you and let you know." then he doesn't text you, and it's like thursday rolls around, you still haven't heard from him, and you're wondering, " where is this guy?" here's the ugly truth about that guy, and i'm sorry to be the one to say this, but it's true.
That guy is waiting around to see, is there something better going to come around? Is there a better option that i'll be able to take advantage of before i'm going out with this woman? Screw that.
You are not option number two. You are not the second best option. You are the first best option. When it comes to the man who wants to be with you, with the man who wants to have this relationship with you, you are going to be an absolute number one option.
He is going to find you beautiful, his going to find you amazing, he is going to feel like he won the jackpot with you.
He's going to be like, " oh my god! This woman is amazing! Like, I hit the lottery with this woman." that's how he's going to feel about you, and you want someone to treat you that way.
Those other guys, they're not thinking you're a jackpot. Those other guys are jackasses. You absolutely deserve a man who's going to treat you like the woman you are, a woman who is amazing, who has tons of value, and he's going to do that and show up in that way by making advanced plans with you.
The fourth thing that you're going to experience when you're with a man who wants a relationship with you is peace. It's going to feel easy. It's going to feel relaxed.
It's going to feel like it's just flowing. When I had the privilege of interviewing america's greatest marriages, couples who had been married over 40 years, and my best friend and I wrote the book " project everlasting, " one of the things these couples talked about was when they got together it just felt easy.
There was this grace that happened. It just flowed. The relationship just flowed. That's what you want to look for. If it feels hard, if it feels like a tug-of-war with this guy constantly back and forth, that is not the sign that you're on the path to something amazing.
That's what you're looking for, the sense of peace, the sense of flow to your relationship, like it's just clicking. Because here's the deal, it is really hard to screw up the right thing.
It's hard to screw up the right thing, meaning you have to really make some serious mistakes or you can make some serious mistakes, and when he's the right guy and you're the right woman, that relationship is going to work out.
There you have, the four things to look for when a man wants a relationship with you. Pursuit, progression, planning, and peace. Know this, that if you don't have that in your life right now, know that you are beautiful, you are worthy, you are amazing, and your man right now is looking for you.
When he comes into your life, you're going to see and feel and know those things to be true. Now, if you liked that video, I highly recommend you check out this video that I made called the three things you can say to make him feel like a man in your presence.
Because here's the deal, when we feel positive in the relationship, we feel positive about you, so go ahead and check that video out. I have a question for you, what is it that you do when you want a relationship with a man? What are the things that you tend to do? How do you show up? Go ahead and post that in the comments section below.
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